TEN TIPS ON HOW TO BEAT THE BULLYING!
1. Walk Tall Try not to act scared. Practice ‘walking tall’ with shoulders back and head held high.
2. Develop Self-Confidence Be positive! Learn new skills. Get involved with people and activities that make you feel good about who you are. Remember, everyone is really good at something.
3. Start A School Program Make sure your school has an anti-bullying program with tips on dealing with bullying incidents.
4. Tell A Friend Always tell a friend or an adult you trust about the bullying. Having someone on your side will help you to stand up for your rights.
5. Walk Away If possible, ignore the bully or say “No” and walk away. The bully is seeking attention.
6. Ignore The Teasing Try not to react to the bullying and teasing. If you act like you don’t care, the bully might get bored and give up.
7. Don’t Fight Back The most dangerous thing you can do when confronted by a bully is to fight back. Bullies are generally stronger than their victims are. By fighting back, you could make things worse.
8. Give Up Your Possessions If the situation is getting dangerous, if the bully is much bigger and stronger than you, or if he has a weapon, then it would be smart to give him what he wants. Material things are replaceable; you are not.
9. Stick With Others Try not to be alone in places where you could be unsafe – such as an empty schoolyard, a dark hallway or a school washroom. If possible, try to stick with a group. Bullies tend to pick on those who are all alone.
10. Remember, Bullies Have Weaknesses Too Bullies have weaknesses like everyone else. Try to see beyond the bullies the bully’s scary face and words and think about what is missing in their life to make them act so cruelly.
IF YOU ARE THE VICTIM OF A CYBERBULLY
What Can Be Done Now?
Don’t reply to messages from cyberbullies – even though you may really want to, this is exactly what cyberbullies want. They want to know that they’ve got you worried and upset. They are trying to mess with your mind and control you, to put fear into you. Don’t give them that pleasure.
Do not keep this to yourself! You are NOT alone and you did NOT do anything to deserve this! Tell an adult you know and trust!
Inform your Internet Service Provider (ISP) or cell phone/pager service provider (see the list of Canadian service providers and their contact information that can be found at on the “Related Resources” page on www.cyberbullying.ca).
Inform your local police.
Do not erase or delete messages from cyberbullies – You don’t have to read it, but keep it, it is your evidence. You may unfortunately get similar messages again, perhaps from other accounts. The police and your ISP, and/or your telephone company can use these messages to help you. You might notice certain words or phrases that are also used by people you know. These messages may reveal certain clues as to who is doing this to you, but don’t try and solve this on your own, remember, tell an adult you know and trust. GET HELP!
Protect yourself! Never arrange to meet with someone you met online unless your parents go with you. If you are meeting them make sure it is in a public place.
You may need to delete your current e-mail accounts, cell phone/pager accounts and set up new ones. If your cyberbullying problems persist, do this as soon as possible, unless you are working with the police and your Telecommunications Provider to keep the account(s) active to try and catch the cyber bully
If you are more technically inclined, you can do a little cyber-sleuthing of your own to provide the police and your Telecommunication Provider with more information, but NEVER try and meet someone personally who you suspect might be the cyber-bully. This is best left in the hands of the legal authorities.
If you receive an unsolicited harassing e-mail message from a cyber-bully, you can often use your mouse to right-click on the header of the offending message and choose the “Options” section of the menu. This will often reveal greater details about the message, such as:
Received: from (218.242.20.53) by ns1.netizenship.org (NTMail 5.06.0016/LC0008.00.11c4cblf) with ESMTP id eahnhaaa for needhelp@cyberbullying.org; Thu, 13 Mar 2003 10:58:30 –0700 Thu, 13 Mar 2003 23:58:15 =0600 Subject::I Hate You! Date: Thu, 13 Mar 03 23:58:15 GMT X-Priority: 3 X-MSMail-Priority: Normal X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook, Build 10.0.2616 MIME – Version: 1.0 Content-Type: multipart/alternative; boundary= “CB8ECC1D.E.F3ED22__.91”
You can then look at the root-domain of the sender, which in this case is the fictitious ”cyberbully.hurt”. You can then go to do a “WHOIS” search with a domain name registration company such as CIRA if the last two letters of the cyberbullies e-mail address end in .ca (this means it is a Canadian domain name and was registered in Canada). If the last letters are something other than.ca, such as.com, org,.net etc. you can do a “WHOIS” search internationally with Internic.com, This Web site has been established to provide the public information regarding Internet domain name registration services and is updated frequently.
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